Pre-Wedding Tips to Help Your Guy Get Happily Down the Wedding
1. The Bride sets the tone.
From day one of planning, the bride sets the tone of the wedding. Don't verbalize your panic, stress, anxiety. Try to just do one step at a time, one task at a time. The calmer and collected you stay... and the focus you keep projecting "I want this to be the best party" for example, is how it will play out in the end.
a. Do not overwhelm yourself by giving yourself 10 choices to pick from and trying everything (like 5 cake tastings). Make quick informed decisions. I didn't even get a piece of cake at my wedding! Don't stress yourself that you need to labor over every decision so it is "right" because whatever you decide will be right.
b. Others will try to add stress to you - but you will be too calm and cool to absorb it - just keep projecting fun for the day. They will try - trust me!!!! And they will be taken aback that their stress was not infectious. That's fine. You are too collected to care. That fuss is on them. How To Budget A Unique Wedding
Those people in your life who are historical stress cases/anxiety mongers: give them one very specific task (so they can be a part of it) and nothing else. Just stress their other job is to have a good time (because even though they will act like they so badly want to do something for you and the day, in reality, they will be so happy to just "be").
c. Watch lots of episodes of Bridezillas. It is comic relief for a bride in planning mode. They inspire you to be the opposite.
2. Don't let tradition guide you.
Everyone will have an opinion on "traditionally, the bride blah blah blah". Never forget for a second this is YOUR DAY and you make it however you want. You don't want to throw a bouquet, then don't. You don't want bridesmaids, then don't have them. You don't want to wear something blue or a garter, don't. Do not get caught up in what you are supposed to do - because what you are supposed to do- is have your BEST DAY ever (refer back to title).
3. Don't let the bride websites and bride magazines intimidate you.
Bridal magazines have these to-do lists and timelines which are mind-boggling. Read through them and make your own list. There is no reason why you should send someone 50% when you can pay it off ahead of time and be done with it. And bridal magazines are fun, but look through it and pull out pages that inspire you and make your own clippings book. Otherwise, you will never go back and find your ideas while magazines at $4 pop pile up.
4. Money saving tips.
Don't buy unnecessary stuff: do you really need monogrammed beverage napkins? Don't trick yourself into the "well, it is my wedding and so... " spending spree. You do not want to start your married life in debt from wedding expenses. It is cool to splurge on some things (I got stickers for my party favors, totally unnecessary, but I thought it would look so cute), but other things maybe you can save on (I did my own invitations and my own hair, ie).
5. The groom
It's true, they don't really do the "planning thing." I had to pick and choose which questions I needed to get answered because unlike me, he didn't want us to talk about it all the time. I had three weeks to plan, so clearly I had questions! I started answering most of the questions myself. He was THRILLED on the day of, and appreciative I had put it all together myself.
a. Get them to watch some Bridezilla episodes too so they can see how calm you really are!
b. Don't let party favors and wedding stuff consume the house. They don't want to see it. I put it all in the garage. Just keep it contained in one place. I see shows where the brides take over whole rooms with wedding stuff.
6. Trim up- look your best!
For me to look my best, I needed to slim down and do something different that would be new for me. But I was crazed busy and having to run wedding errands through lunch and not being able to get to the gym. So I cut out carbs. Yes, no pasta, no rice, no bread. No junk like sweets or chips. Small meals all day long. I did have cereal at breakfast to sustain me. At night and the morning I did, 50 sits ups and as many push-ups as I could. And that did it. I trimmed down, leaned up and got some muscle definition back in my arms. And for any other flaws I had - I did Mystic-Tan since tan is always helpful! Remember these pictures last forever and everyone you know will have them, so get your self looking and feeling your best! The thing that I did that was new for me - I had my makeup done. Had never done that before. That is the thing that made me feel "diva."
7. The morning of the wedding surrounds yourself with people that give you peace.
I woke up that morning with my husband-to-be- but it was critical for me to take off and be around my female friends- eating and visiting and getting glammed up. Started the day off so lovingly. How To Prepare-Wedding Accessories For Big Day
8. The coordinator
But how did I not have 5,000 things to do? Because I planned the wedding and then passed it all off to my organized, reliable, energetic, follow-through friend to take it from the morning of the wedding until the end. If you are your own coordinator have someone be the wedding coordinator day-of. Someone to organize set up, delivery, seating, schedule, and answer every question. This job is CRITICAL to the bride's peace. And that person assigned has to share your sentiment of peace, fun, love. I felt so completely at peace because my friend/ day of coordinator was to be counted on 110%!
9. The day's schedule
It is really amazing how fast the day goes by. I knew I did not want to feel "scheduled" so we did plan the time for the wedding and time for the toasts and generally the few things we wanted to throw in there... but we also played a lot of it by ear - like throwing the bouquet, eating cake, pictures, we just did it when it felt natural. So many brides feel they get tugged all day with "to-do" scheduling... leave yourself room to just be in the moment some of the day! I probably should have mingled with guests more, but I had so much fun on the dance floor I just couldn't leave. Oh well. Made it the best day ever (revisit the title).wedding ideas
10. Keep your center- that you are marrying the love of your life.
There is no denying, this is a production. This is a party. Guests have expectations. You have dreams. You want it all to be perfect. Well, it will be no matter what detail falls to the wayside, because on that day- you are marrying the love of your life. So nothing else really matters. Get nervous? Tearful? Get back to the center - what could be better? Nothing! It is the best day of your life - you are marrying your true love!
From day one of planning, the bride sets the tone of the wedding. Don't verbalize your panic, stress, anxiety. Try to just do one step at a time, one task at a time. The calmer and collected you stay... and the focus you keep projecting "I want this to be the best party" for example, is how it will play out in the end.
a. Do not overwhelm yourself by giving yourself 10 choices to pick from and trying everything (like 5 cake tastings). Make quick informed decisions. I didn't even get a piece of cake at my wedding! Don't stress yourself that you need to labor over every decision so it is "right" because whatever you decide will be right.
b. Others will try to add stress to you - but you will be too calm and cool to absorb it - just keep projecting fun for the day. They will try - trust me!!!! And they will be taken aback that their stress was not infectious. That's fine. You are too collected to care. That fuss is on them. How To Budget A Unique Wedding
Those people in your life who are historical stress cases/anxiety mongers: give them one very specific task (so they can be a part of it) and nothing else. Just stress their other job is to have a good time (because even though they will act like they so badly want to do something for you and the day, in reality, they will be so happy to just "be").
c. Watch lots of episodes of Bridezillas. It is comic relief for a bride in planning mode. They inspire you to be the opposite.
2. Don't let tradition guide you.
Everyone will have an opinion on "traditionally, the bride blah blah blah". Never forget for a second this is YOUR DAY and you make it however you want. You don't want to throw a bouquet, then don't. You don't want bridesmaids, then don't have them. You don't want to wear something blue or a garter, don't. Do not get caught up in what you are supposed to do - because what you are supposed to do- is have your BEST DAY ever (refer back to title).
3. Don't let the bride websites and bride magazines intimidate you.
Bridal magazines have these to-do lists and timelines which are mind-boggling. Read through them and make your own list. There is no reason why you should send someone 50% when you can pay it off ahead of time and be done with it. And bridal magazines are fun, but look through it and pull out pages that inspire you and make your own clippings book. Otherwise, you will never go back and find your ideas while magazines at $4 pop pile up.
4. Money saving tips.
Don't buy unnecessary stuff: do you really need monogrammed beverage napkins? Don't trick yourself into the "well, it is my wedding and so... " spending spree. You do not want to start your married life in debt from wedding expenses. It is cool to splurge on some things (I got stickers for my party favors, totally unnecessary, but I thought it would look so cute), but other things maybe you can save on (I did my own invitations and my own hair, ie).
5. The groom
It's true, they don't really do the "planning thing." I had to pick and choose which questions I needed to get answered because unlike me, he didn't want us to talk about it all the time. I had three weeks to plan, so clearly I had questions! I started answering most of the questions myself. He was THRILLED on the day of, and appreciative I had put it all together myself.
a. Get them to watch some Bridezilla episodes too so they can see how calm you really are!
b. Don't let party favors and wedding stuff consume the house. They don't want to see it. I put it all in the garage. Just keep it contained in one place. I see shows where the brides take over whole rooms with wedding stuff.
6. Trim up- look your best!
For me to look my best, I needed to slim down and do something different that would be new for me. But I was crazed busy and having to run wedding errands through lunch and not being able to get to the gym. So I cut out carbs. Yes, no pasta, no rice, no bread. No junk like sweets or chips. Small meals all day long. I did have cereal at breakfast to sustain me. At night and the morning I did, 50 sits ups and as many push-ups as I could. And that did it. I trimmed down, leaned up and got some muscle definition back in my arms. And for any other flaws I had - I did Mystic-Tan since tan is always helpful! Remember these pictures last forever and everyone you know will have them, so get your self looking and feeling your best! The thing that I did that was new for me - I had my makeup done. Had never done that before. That is the thing that made me feel "diva."
7. The morning of the wedding surrounds yourself with people that give you peace.
I woke up that morning with my husband-to-be- but it was critical for me to take off and be around my female friends- eating and visiting and getting glammed up. Started the day off so lovingly. How To Prepare-Wedding Accessories For Big Day
8. The coordinator
But how did I not have 5,000 things to do? Because I planned the wedding and then passed it all off to my organized, reliable, energetic, follow-through friend to take it from the morning of the wedding until the end. If you are your own coordinator have someone be the wedding coordinator day-of. Someone to organize set up, delivery, seating, schedule, and answer every question. This job is CRITICAL to the bride's peace. And that person assigned has to share your sentiment of peace, fun, love. I felt so completely at peace because my friend/ day of coordinator was to be counted on 110%!
9. The day's schedule
It is really amazing how fast the day goes by. I knew I did not want to feel "scheduled" so we did plan the time for the wedding and time for the toasts and generally the few things we wanted to throw in there... but we also played a lot of it by ear - like throwing the bouquet, eating cake, pictures, we just did it when it felt natural. So many brides feel they get tugged all day with "to-do" scheduling... leave yourself room to just be in the moment some of the day! I probably should have mingled with guests more, but I had so much fun on the dance floor I just couldn't leave. Oh well. Made it the best day ever (revisit the title).wedding ideas
10. Keep your center- that you are marrying the love of your life.
There is no denying, this is a production. This is a party. Guests have expectations. You have dreams. You want it all to be perfect. Well, it will be no matter what detail falls to the wayside, because on that day- you are marrying the love of your life. So nothing else really matters. Get nervous? Tearful? Get back to the center - what could be better? Nothing! It is the best day of your life - you are marrying your true love!
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